Today, I am dressing up for myself.
I chose a red dress,
I chose a red dress with a V-neck that shows cleavage,
I chose a red dress that does not cover my knees,
I chose a red dress that has an open back,
And I chose high heels.
Today, I am dressing up for myself.
I am slowly building who I am,
I am slowly rising as a women,
I am slowly building a life for my own,
And it feels great.
Today, I am dressing up for myself.
I am not trying to get any men,
I am not trying to get people to whistle as I walk past them,
I am not trying to call anyone’s attention.
Today, I am dressing up for myself.
I do not need a man to tell me how good I look,
I do not need anyone’s validation or approval,
I do not need anyone holding my hand or escorting me as I walk through the streets.
But most importantly, today I am standing up for myself.
Yes, I am a woman wearing a short, red dress,
Yes, I am a woman walking all alone through the streets,
Yes, I am a woman building a life for myself and following my dream job,
Yes, I am a woman and that does not mean that I can’t feel great in my clothes.
Today, I am raising my middle finger up for every single man to see
For them to see that I am not an object,
For them to see that I should not stay at home and take care of my house,
For them to see that my sexual organs or my physical appearance does not define what I can or can’t do,
For them to see that I am an equal, that I can do just as much as they can
For them to see that I need to be treated with the same respect that they treat each other with.
We need to stop telling women to watch how they dress,
We need to stop telling women that just because their clothes are not entirely covering their parts they are asking for it,
We need to stop telling women that they are nothing but an object,
We need to stop telling women that they are worthless, that they should not demand to be treated with respect,
We need to stop telling women that it is ok to live in fear and that they should stay at home after the sun goes down,
That if they leave their houses after dark, without being escorted by a men, they are asking for it and everything that happens to them is their fault,
That no men that they meet is decent and that they are all evil.
Instead, we need educate our precious males,
We need to tell them to keep it in their pants,
We need to tell them to know when to not act upon their thoughts,
We need to tell them that women are not objects,
We need to tell them to stop using women, for they are just as human as men are,
We need to tell them that gender does not define abilities or intelligence,
We need to tell them that just because they are pretty does not mean that they want you,
We need to tell them that looks don’t determine whether they are capable or not of building a life for themselves,
We need to teach them how to respect women, for they need to be treated as equals,
But most importantly,
We need to tell them that just because they have a penis it does not meen that it belongs inside every single women they meet.
A simple definition of sexuality would be who you’re sexually and/or romantically attracted to. These two attractions are different from each other, and both branch off into whole other branches of sexuality and sexual orientation. For example, you could be sexually attracted to boys, yet romantically attracted to girls. This means that when it comes to sexual desire, you would rather have sex with boys, not girls. Of course, this doesn’t mean you don’t want a healthy, romantic relationship with girls; you would just rather abstain from girls, and go with boys. This is totally fine, since everyone has their preferences. Some commonly known sexualities include:
Pansexuality/Omnisexuality: This refers to people attracted to others of any gender identity, including cisgender, transgender, and genderqueer people. Their attraction is not limited to only one or two genders, but rather all.
Bisexuality: This is when an individual is attracted to both men and women. When someone refers to themselves as bisexual, it does not mean they’re both gay and straight. They’re not “basically gay”; they’re a whole other sexuality, and calling them gay when they don’t identify as such is considered offensive.
Homosexuality: When an individual is attracted to people of the same gender. For example, a girl who is sexually attracted to other girls is commonly called a lesbian. A more commonly used word for this sexuality would be gay.
Heterosexuality: Most people know this sexuality; when one is attracted to people of the opposite gender. A more commonly used word for this sexuality is straight.
Asexuality: Someone who isn’t sexually attracted to anyone. The term asexual is merely and umbrella, and there are so many more parts to it. Just like any sexuality, it’s a broad spectrum, and each individual identifying as asexual may differ. Some don’t want to have sex with anybody at any time, some want to have a close bond first, some don’t even want romance (the term for this would be aromantic), simply platonic friendship.
These are broad subjects, and each have its own subdivisions of attraction. Some examples of romantic attractions would be homoromantic, heteroromantic, biromantic, aromantic etc. Each of these terms refers to who you’re romantically attracted to. Maybe you don’t want to use these terms, and that’s fine. Maybe you don’t want to tell anyone either, and that’s fine too. Only you can decide what to do with your sexuality; let everyone know, keep it hidden, whatever feels right for you.
Sometimes, it’s not easy for someone to come out as gay, bi, etc. As lots know, there is a ginormous amount of stigma, stereotypes, and prejudice against sexualities that aren’t heterosexual. There’s tons and tons of discrimination; people have even been killed because of their sexualities. With this amount of hate, it makes sense that some people just want to stay hidden, because sometimes it’s dangerous for them to say anything. The truth is, one can’t change who they’re attracted to and who they like. It’s not a choice whether someone wants to have sex with girls or boys. Trying to change this part of someone is completely pointless, because it’s not about how they were raised or what kind of things they do or hobbies they like; it’s just a matter of that person, and how they just are. It’s like making fun of someone because of their race; they can’t help it if they’re black, white, asian, or anything else. They just are, and it’s not anyone’s fault.
They should be teaching this in Health classes. They should be assuring young teens and kids that it’s okay to be gay, bi, straight, ace, pan. It doesn’t matter if they’re straight or not, because it doesn’t make them any more human than anyone else on the planet. Just imagine: your peers, family, and half the world hate you because of one little thing that you can’t control. Just remember that no one can tell you who you are. Only you can decide for yourself. Not your parents, not your friends, not your classmate or your teacher. There is only one person who knows you best, and that is yourself.
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Here’s a video in case you’re still confused about sexual preference:
Author: Sophia (gr8)
How Porn Affects your Sex Life
¨According to the science, porn is a “supranormal” stimulus — it activates the normal reward mechanisms in our brains, but it does so at such a high level that we perceive it to be way more pleasurable than the average arousing stimulus. But our brains become desensitized and develop a need for even more novel stimuli in order to reach the same level of arousal and excitement.¨ (https://markmanson.net/pornography-can-ruin-your-sex-life). 40 million people in the US visit porn websites on a regular basis. Although you may not believe me, porn can actually affect your sex life.
To start with, porn can or cannot play a role in a future romantic relationship. 70.8% of men and 45.5% of women thought they would watch and play a role in a romantic relationship. But, only 22.3% of men and 26.3% of women thought pornography had no role in romantic relationship. This is an issue because if both partners are okay with porn, maybe that can open doors to experiment more things during sex. But if both partners disagree if they should watch porn, the one that does, can be thought less by the other.
Porn actually raises the numbers of infidelity. Porn can remind you about all the people you are missing out with. Porn reminds you about all the people out there and you are stuck with your partner. Research done by Nathaniel Lambert, Sesen Negash and others show that porn does raise infinitely numbers and decrease commitment numbers and that people who watch porn more often are more likely to flirt with others.
Porn can also make you have unreasonable standards about sex. For example, porn for men show that men in sex have a strong position and it shows that sex is all about them. But in reality it is nothing like how porn shows and that is why porn is linked to unhappiness, unsatisfied partners, depression, anxiety, and loneliness. But if you start having this problems it is not the end of the world. Studies actually show that people who joined the “no fap” movement 67% of the people that joined say that it improved their energy levels and productivity. (study conducted by Scott Christian).
Porn is made to help you masturbate and, in a way, for entertainment (males sometimes watch it in group and make fun of a scene). But you have to understand that porn is not the reality. Porn is nothing like the real sex. You can watch porn, but keep in mind to not let it interfere with you sex life and that it does not become and addiction. And if it is, rty to regulate it, because it will make you feel much better. Porn is not the real thing, keep in mind that always.
Author: Lucas Gr8 student
Rape Male Victims
The definition of rape according to dictionary.com is, ¨unlawful sexual intercourse or any other sexual penetration of thevagina, anus, or mouth of another person, with or without force, by asex organ, other body part, or foreign object, without the consent of the victim.¨ We are all familiar with hearing about rape cases about a girl getting raped. But what about men rape?
According to the U.S. Department of Justice, between 9-10% of rape victims surviving out of criminal institution are male (U.S. Department of Justice, 1994; TAAS, 2014). The U.S. Centers for Disease control in 2005, reported that 16% of man are raped by the age of 18. The U.S. Department of Justice also reports that more than 12,00 number of man are being raped annually. But it predicts, that if all male rape cases were called, then there would be 60,000 cases (Department of Justice, 1994). But, why don't all man that get raped come forward and present a case? Why so little?
“For all gender identities survivors, anger, anxiety, fear, confusion, self-blame, shame, depression, and even suicidal thoughts are all common reactions for someone who has experienced a sexual assault.” (https://sapac.umich.edu/article/53). Males lean more towards getting angry and minimize the assault of what it really is. They are also more likely to abuse of substances such as alcohol or drugs to cope living with the experience. Men also may have a harder time presenting a case since they may like what the other person is doing, ejaculate, or get an erection. But ejaculating and getting erections is actually a way of responding to the intensity of fear or pain, and it doesn not mean that you consent. After getting raped, males may feel they are not true men due to the stereotypes of men. Males may have a hard time reporting a case of rape or telling someone because they were not ready to have sex and were not the aggressor in the sexual relationship. Plus it is extra hard if the aggressor was a woman since men are expected to be strong, protect themselves, and always be aware. They feel they will be mocked and will be ashamed because of it for the rest of his life.
You may wonder, if he is a man, and the aggressor is a woman, why does he not over power her? He is stronger, why does he just push her off? Well, when victims are being sexually assaulted, any gender, the victim takes a state in which it is feels as if the person has been frozen. They cannot do any physical resistance to stop the harasser because they are “frozen”.
Rape caused by a male to another male can also confuse the victim to what gender they feel attracted to. Because, if they got an erection or ejaculated while getting raped with another male, they might think that they are gay. Having ejaculated while getting raped by another man, may generate question to other people if the victim is gay or not. The victim might also feel that they will have to make clear if they like man, woman, or both. A tool man aggressors can use to other man is homophobia. Homophobia is used to keep power and control in the situation.
Although more cases of rape of woman are reported and we know of, rape male cases also do happen. Woman rape cases might be more known because of stereotypes and/or people are more comfortable with the image that only females get raped while males don’t. But male rape is just as sever as female rape. Man can go through the same effects of rape just like woman, except pregnancy. Men and female go through the same things and we need to help both. When we think about rape we associate it with a men towards a woman. But what about the male victims? Do they not matter? If we want to help male rape victims we have to make them known. Male rape victims matter.
Author: Lucas Gr 8 Student
Teenagers also have sexual relationships, however they might not know how to behave. So, in this blog I am going to tell you some important things to remember to have a healthy sexual relationship. Nowadays it’s important that some teenagers want to have sexual relationship, but they don’t know how to have the mental attitude, so we are going to be guiding the teens to be correct, so that they don’t have bad outcomes or having conflict between partners. With the tips for a healthy relationship, the teenagers will learn how to behave to each other in certain circumstances, and ending up with a enjoyable sexual relationship.
Author: Yun Seo (Grade 8)
Sexual assault is any contact or behavior without consent from the victim. Rape along with attempted rape, fondling, unwanted sexual touching, and forcing a victim to perform sexual acts are all forms of sexual assault.
While rape is a form of sexual assault, not all sexual assault is rape. The term rape has many different legal definitions in countries and states(of the U.S.). Rape as defined by the FBI is “penetration, no matter how slight, of the vagina or anus with any body part or object, or oral penetration by a sex organ of another person, without the consent of the victim”.
While it is good to know a definition of rape, if you or someone else is a victim of rape the most important thing to know is that rape and other sexual assault is never the victim's fault, it is wrong whatever relationship you have with the perpetrator, and in most places and situations rape is illegal.
If you or someone you know is sexually assaulted or raped do not keep it to yourself. In most countries including areas of Argentina you can call 911 and receive assistance, then call the local police department, and receive immediate medical attention. For a medical emergency such as sexual assault or rape you can also call 107 in Argentina.
RAINN is an organization in the U.S. which offers information about sexual assault and operates the National(U.S.) Sexual Assault Hotline (800.656.HOPE, online.rainn.org and rainn.org/es) for victims in the U.S. If you are not a U.S. citizen, you can use all the information on RAINN’s website. RAINN’s information on sexual assault and rape explains what these terms refer to, statistics on perpetrators and their backgrounds, and more. If you are a U.S. citizen living outside of the country you can get help from your nearest Embassy or Consulate or by calling +1 202.501.4444. To learn more about getting help if you are a U.S. citizen living outside of the country, go to RAINN’s website.
It is important to know what sexual assault and rape is and how to address these issues, because then you can protect your body and know how to report rape. This topic is important to positive sexual health because with this information you can protect your health and your rights, and ensure that you know how to get help. This post can: help people to get help after sexual assault, understand if they are being sexually assaulted, and find people to talk to.
Author: Sophia (Gr 8)
What is an abusive relationship?
An abusive relationship is a relationship where a partner or partners are abused. It is important to know what an abusive relationship looks like, so that if your relationship is abusive you can stay safe and be treated with respect.
Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual:
If you know someone who is being abused help them seek help and gain self confidence and courage to end the relationship. The person who is being abusive needs to receive professional help to fix their problems.
If you think you are in an abusive relationship discuss it with a trusted adult, counselor, or therapist and decide how you will deal with the issue. If you are being physically or sexually abused get medical attention or call the police. If your relationship is not an abusive one, but you still feel uncomfortable you shouldn't tolerate it and either resolve your issues with your partner or end the relationship.
A great resource to learn more about abusive relationships is this article by TeenFX. This article explains how to handle an abusive relationship if you are a part of one or your friend is being abused. The article also explains signs of an abusive relationship. If you are still have any doubts or questions about abusive relationships TeenFX also has a Q&A and professionals you can speak to.
Knowing what an abusive relationship looks like and how to handle abuse is relevant to sexual health because then you can avoid relationships that force you into experiences you are uncomfortable with(sexual or otherwise) and be treated with respect. With the knowledge from this post you can also help people you know to understand whether they are being abused and protect them. This post can: help people recognize abuse in abusive relationships whether themselves or their friends are being abused, end those relationships, and get help.
Author: Sophia (Grade 8)
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